Just Good Friends

Joanna Hunkin, the NZ Herald’s Blonde at the Bar, blogs on the issue of can men and women just be good friends, and she of course has the obligatory reference to When Harry met Sally.

Hunkin says she used to think one could, but no longer is so sure.

I have a couple of thoughts on the issue.

The first is that most guys like sex a hell of a lot, and while they may not particularly want to have sex with most of the girls they know, they are hardly likely to violently resist if an attractive friend starts pashing them at a party (assuming they are both single). The chance of their brain saying “no, no think of the friendship” being able to overcome something else saying “yes, yes, more, more” is very low. Us men are weak willed creatures.

But despite the above, that doesn’t mean one can’t have great friendships with the opposite sex, where nothing ever happens. I would have 12 – 15 female friends who I go out with occasionally, sometimes do dinner/movies with, and just enjoy spending time with. Only one of them is someone I actually think a relationship with would be a good idea. One can find a girl/woman physically attractive but not want to actually go out with them.

So yeah in my view men and women can just be friends. It’s actually pretty damn easy.